This is something that has been eating away at me for a while now but my Facebook and Twitter feeds are full with people laying blame at, well anything really, for the way they look and feel. They are doing this instead of taking ownership over the decisions that they have made over time, which have led them to that place. I get it, I mean nobody likes to hold his or her hand up and announce ‘I messed up, it’s my fault’ but taking responsibility for the way you look and feel will be the best thing you ever did.
It’s Not Your Fault
The fitness and nutrition industry is a multi billion pound monster with much of it centered around one purpose: to separate you from your hard earned cash. Marketers know that making change is hard and that well, on a whole we suck at it. Even if we know what we are doing is wrong, we still get defensive and push back when someone challenges our choices. Hardly sounds like an ideal customer, right?
So, rather than be straight up with you, they provide you with plenty of reasons why the way you look and feel isn’t your fault. There are a plethora of ‘experts’ who have built a huge following based around giving people permission to exonerate themselves from responsibility over how they look and feel.
“It’s not your fault, it’s a hormone imbalance”
“It’s not your fault, it’s because you have x or y in your diet”
“It’s not your fault, you need supplement X which luckily I sell”
I’m sorry, but if you are not happy with what you see in the mirror or what you slide onto the bar, then (and this might sting a little), it is your responsibility. There, I’ve said it.
Now before you think I’m writing this from the bellend suite of dickhead towers, bear with me. I totally get that you may have been mislead over the years by trainers. Me too. For the early part of my career as a trainer, I followed the advice of the apparent ‘elite’ trainers blindly. Jumping from training plan to training plan. From smashing down protein shakes to avoiding any refined food altogether. None of it got me to where I wanted to be.
It did lead me to a place where I was no longer willing to except the hollow promises of trainers based solely on their words. Slowly, I turned my attention away from the chosen few and instead spent my time studying and developing a new network of professionals, many of whom I’m privileged to now call friends. Then I had an eureka moment; I realised it was my fault for not doing that in the first place.
You’re In Charge
Do you know what happens when I see someone pinning their lack of progress on something they picked up from up from some quack on Facebook?
That’s right, baby unicorns cry. They cry because it’s another person being mislead into thinking that controlling your body composition is some form of witchcraft that involves all of these complex processes, which you must control at every moment of the day, forever.
This leads people to believe that all things body composition are largely out of their hands. This drives me insane because it distracts your focus from focusing on what you are able to control:
- What you eat on a daily basis
- Training consistently and enjoying it
- Getting enough sleep